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What to do when it’s finally time to ask for a divorce

Your marriage has been on the rocks for a long time, and you realize that you need to take action. While there’s a lot that goes into the divorce process, it all starts with telling your spouse about your feelings.

Here’s what you should do when it’s finally time to ask your spouse for a divorce:

  • Take notes to prepare: This doesn’t have to be anything extensive. Take simple notes about what you want to say, what you want to convey and how to deal with any reaction your spouse may have.
  • Be compassionate: Even if you and your spouse aren’t getting along, there is no reason to be nasty during this conversation. Remain compassionate and respectful throughout the conversation. You can’t control how your spouse reacts, but you can take the high road. 
  • Stick to your plan: Depending on the circumstances, your spouse may attempt to talk you out of filing for divorce. They may also attempt to turn a calm conversation into one that’s full of aggression and hate. You have a well thought out plan, so stick with it. 

These are the types of steps you should take if you come face to face with the challenge of asking your spouse for a divorce.

Asking for a divorce is never easy. It’s never fun. And it can be downright scary on many levels. However, if you stay in a bad marriage for all the wrong reasons, it’ll continue to make you miserable.

Once you ask your spouse for a divorce, it’s easier to turn your attention to the trechnical process of dividing your interests and protecting your rights.