You have two children. One is five, and the other is nine. They get along well, but one of them needs much more care than the other. One of the conflicts you had in your home was your spouse saying that your child with special needs was taking too much away from your healthy child. As a result of their needs, their sibling was going without the support they needed.
You worked on spending more individual time with your healthier child, but when you and your spouse decided to divorce, it caused a new problem. How can you continue to provide the right care and attention to both children? How can you manage to take care of both when you have only one adult in the household?
This is a difficult situation, and it’s one that might present challenges in caring for your children. One option you have is to split up custody in a way that means you have only one child at a time. For instance, you may want to have your disabled child in your home for a week, then you may want to switch custody and have your healthier child. Doing this gives you a break from caring for your child’s special needs, the opportunity to provide individualized attention to your healthier child and does the same for your ex-spouse.
You may want to take steps to guarantee that your children will still get to be together, at least a few days a week. However, if splitting up custody will work best, then it’s something you may want to agree to and present to a judge.
