In the whirlwind of decisions that must be made when a couple goes through divorce, it is easy for Massachusetts couples to become focused on themselves. However, remembering that children are tremendously affected by their parents' decision to divorce is vital. Child custody issues can greatly impact how children see their family dynamic as well as possibly having an effect on how children value themselves.
Children may often feel that they could be at fault for their parents' separation. Even if they do not voice these feelings, there is still a chance that they may be feeling a sense of responsibility for the situation. By attempting to handle the separation in an amiable way, parents could present to their children that the situation does not have to be a battle of placing blame.
Parents could also remember to not pry into their children's time spent with the other parent. True, it could be beneficial for parents to continue to communicate in order to present children with steady rules to which they should comply, but parents should not use children in an attempt to glean more information than necessary about the other parent. By focusing on the children's well-being instead of trying to spy on an ex-spouse, the transitions between each parent's home could be smoother.
Children often bear more hardships during child custody battles than some parents may be aware. Parents may believe they are doing what is best for their children by vying for sole custody, but some parents may not understand the emotional toll that the situation can truly have on young kids. Massachusetts parents who are or who may be going through such proceedings could possibly benefit from learning more about state laws dealing with child custody in order to understand their rights as parents as well as possibly determining the least stressful course for their children.
Source: Huffington Post, 5 Ways to Protect Children During Divorce, Deborah Anderson Bialis, Nov. 25, 2013