Massachusetts residents know the difficulties of divorce can often cause much upset for both parties, even the one who initiated the divorce discussion. Though hard feelings can arise toward separating partners, it is important to remember that being upset is natural, and more than likely both spouses are feeling some negative emotions. Focusing on positive personal emotions after a divorce can help not only oneself feel better quickly, but it can also lead to a more amiable divorce process and after period.
It is natural to want to project negative feelings toward a spouse after divorce, but holding off on spreading unfriendly ideas about an ex-partner can speed up the moving on process. By truly separating oneself from an ex-husband or –wife through actions such as not checking their social media pages or not updating personal social media pages, feelings of jealousy will have a more difficult time of manifesting. When the mind is not preoccupied with who an ex is talking to or what he or she is doing, then more time can be spending on building a new life without the ex.
Of course, there will be times when interacting with an ex is necessary. In the beginning it will be figuring out property division, alimony payments and child support or custody. Those are all issues that can turn tense very quickly, but by being prepared and keeping in mind that the situation will be difficult enough without intentional negativity the process could go more smoothly. While creating an amicable environment could be helpful, tensions do rise and having a third party involved may lessen the chance even more of argument and difficult agreement terms.
Family law issues can quickly turn into arguments should an ex-spouse feel strong negative emotions toward the other. Preparation is the best tool when going through divorce, and looking into Massachusetts divorce and family laws could be beneficial to all parties involved. When a person feels prepared for the situation, he or she can have a better handle on personal emotions and feel more clear-minded when heading into the proceedings.
Source: Huffington Post, "Divorce 101: How to Win Your Divorce," Janis Spindel, June 18, 2013